{"id":2209512,"date":"2025-02-20T11:42:09","date_gmt":"2025-02-20T19:42:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tinybeans.com\/?p=2209512"},"modified":"2025-02-26T08:22:16","modified_gmt":"2025-02-26T16:22:16","slug":"best-way-get-kid-talking-school-pickup","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tinybeans.com\/best-way-get-kid-talking-school-pickup\/","title":{"rendered":"Parenting Coach Shares What Kids Really Want You to Do at School Pick-Up"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Let&#8217;s set the scene: You&#8217;re pulling out the <a href=\"https:\/\/tinybeans.com\/ohio-elementary-school-car-line-signs\/\">school pick-up line<\/a> and heading home. You&#8217;re curious about what happened when your kid wasn&#8217;t with you and ask them questions like, &#8220;How was your day? How did the test go? Did you learn anything interesting today?&#8221; And all you&#8217;re getting in return are one-word answers (if you&#8217;re lucky). What&#8217;s a parent to do? According to parenting coach Chelsey Hauge-Zavaleta, it&#8217;s totally normal for your kid to shut down at the end of the school day\u2014and peppering them with questions the minute they enter your car can seem a bit like an interrogation.<\/p>\n<p>This time of day is a transition between school and after-school hours, and kids need to ease into it, explained Dr. Hauge-Zavaleta in a <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@drchelsey_parenting\/video\/7364149651001363754\">recent TikTok<\/a>. She also offers <a href=\"https:\/\/tinybeans.com\/how-was-your-day-alternatives\/\">alternatives to the &#8220;How was your day?&#8221; questions<\/a> that might have better success after you&#8217;re done with school pickup.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@drchelsey_parenting\/video\/7364149651001363754\" data-video-id=\"7364149651001363754\" data-embed-from=\"oembed\" style=\"max-width:605px; min-width:325px;\">\n<section> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"@drchelsey_parenting\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@drchelsey_parenting?refer=embed\">@drchelsey_parenting<\/a> <\/p>\n<p> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"\u266c original sound - Dr. Chelsey Hauge-Zavaleta\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/original-sound-7364149700095658794?refer=embed\">\u266c original sound &#8211; Dr. Chelsey Hauge-Zavaleta<\/a> <\/section>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>First off, you can offer them a snack that you brought for them from home. This shows that you were thinking of them and takes the pressure off the situation. You can ask them if they&#8217;d like to listen to Taylor Swift or classical music (or whatever their favorite genre of music might be). Maybe you&#8217;d want to share something about your day to model the sharing behavior you&#8217;d like to see from them. This could be something like, &#8220;I had a really dicey meeting today,&#8221; and then you&#8217;d explain what happened. And lastly, you could just be quiet. Think about how you feel when you walk in the door after a particularly hectic day. Silence is often what you are looking for.<\/p>\n<p>This behavior often changes as your kids get older. You might be shocked when your never-stops-talking kid turns into a <a href=\"https:\/\/tinybeans.com\/what-not-to-say-to-an-angry-tween\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">quiet, sullen tween<\/a>. 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